March 28, 2014

Reflections of Life “Girlfriends are like Diamonds”

I am so incredibly fortunate to say, that I have several ladies that I call my very special girlfriends(BFF’s).  They have been there during my happiest of times to the saddest, and most tragic of times.   These are people that shine as bright as Diamonds in my life. 

Diamonds come in all shapes and sizes, and as we know so do friends.  It doesn’t matter which shape or size they might be because, they all play an integral part in your life.  They are  individually  there to provide as much love, joy, and laughter as you need at any given moment.  

They shine as bright as the stars and moon, at varying times to help carry you through life’s challenges.  I have seen that each friend brings their own very special talents to our friendship.  Some are the comedians when you need to laugh, some are the creative ones that can find just the right activity to distract you from your deepest sorrow, some are the ones that can make your taste buds salivate from the amazing dishes they put together for a fun girls night, some are the ones that you know always have your back personally, professionally , financially and even organize your house for you,  some will use their talents and be there for the very  last precious moments of  one’s life,  and then there are ones that will get on a dance floor with you and feel  that soul moving music as much as you and then will gently remind you to never do that move again.  But, most important of all is, they all are there to just listen and comfort you when you need to get through life’s difficult road.

These girlfriends are like a prism reflecting off of a multi-faceted diamond as it slowly turns. They encompass all colors, ethnic backgrounds and stages of life, from childhood through your lifetime.  They provide so many beautiful memories and shared experiences that you cannot help but smile, laugh or cry.

A diamond is the hardest mineral on earth, and these girlfriends are also the strongest of all.  They are the ones that you know will be with you through “thick or thin.”  I won’t say that everyone is scratch proof like a diamond but, they are less resistant to take something personal . They will not let you down, even if you are having a bad day and might not be “politically correct” or have accidentally offended them.  Although, I’ve found a quick apology is the best practice.   They get you, and understand that life isn’t always easy and you only share your “deepest “ feelings and emotions with them because they have been chosen to be a part of your inner circle. 

The relationship between girlfriends is one that most men do not understand.  Like the rarest diamonds in a variety of colors, these girlfriends are the rarest gems who enrich and support our mental well -being.  The best of them float to the top, just like a real diamond.  

I hope that you are blessed to have wonderful girlfriends in your life, as I do.  They each know how very much they mean to me and how much I love them. But, I want them to all know that my life especially now would not be the same without them.   If I haven’t told them enough, I want to remind them that I will be there for them whenever their life’s journey becomes difficult or derailed.  They are my most precious gem, and I will treasure them forever.

March 21, 2014

Reflections of Love

As I reflect back in time, I find that the pain and happiness of those years has been the barometer of how I have measured and conducted my adult relationships these past 37 years. 

It’s hard to find words to explain the many ways that those days forever changed my life.   A chunk of my heart has been stolen away, never to be seen or found by any other.   The highs were high, and the lows were emotionally so very hard to bear.  Many days were spent wondering what I could do to make the pain disappear.   In the grieving process, I have found only time can heal those wounds in the most healthiest of ways.  The loss of love, is one thing I will never get accustomed to in this lifetime.  But, now clearly understand that God has my destiny planned.   He only allows me small choices, the big ones are in his hands.

Love shows itself in so many ways and intensities.  Passion can be wonderful, intoxicating and the most overwhelming feeling in the world.  It changes your state of mind and being, and causes one to feel as if it is a drug that you can’t do without.  This is why matters of the heart, can make a person loose themselves if not of a stable state of mind.  When you love with all your heart and are naïve, it opens the door for many life lessons.  Not ones that you wish on everyone but, yet almost do so they can understand the power of this kind of love.  

I have been lucky to experience love several times in my life.  Each relationship helped me to become the person that I am today.  Without those experiences “good or bad”,  I would not be the same individual.  The pain taught me to be stronger, less naïve, more accepting of compromise, more patient, how to hold my tongue and definitely less reliant on another being for happiness.   The happiness showed me what greatness and completeness can be felt when shared with the one you love if you allow yourself to love deeply, with intention and most of all fearlessly.  

I know that life can be short, and I intend to follow my heart to where and whomever it leads me to feel it is overflowing with joy, where my smile is  as bright at the Diamond Head Lighthouse,  where my deepest laughter brings tears to my eyes, where my sense of being is soul arousing like the most heartfelt song by Lionel Richie, where my mind is calmed  with the knowledge that my life continues to be  in God’s hands, and that he will walk with me as I follow this new road that he lays before me with excitement ,  curiosity and maybe a bit of apprehension toward my unknown future.